Aspects in Parents' Mental Health Impacting Child's Motivation Development

This study explores the relationship between the lack of children learning motivation and the parent's unconscious conflict through psychoanalytic coaching. In modern world, parents are increasingly worried about the fact that the child wants to spend all his free time in computer games, watching youtube videos and is completely not interested in learning. The study assumed that the unconscious internal parents conflicts that reveal themselves in relationships with the child also contribute to his problematic behavior. When working with the parent himself in the psychoanalytic coaching approach for three sessions, it is possible to reveal some underlying causes that affect the group dynamics in the family and “force” the child not to be interested in learning. As a rule, the parent throws his fears, anxieties, projections onto the child. A parent's awareness of this connection can change the way the family and the child communicate. The parent begins to handle with their experiences on their own, and the child ceases to be a “bucket” for collecting negative experiences. The participants in this study were already aware that they had some influence on the child, but they could not understand the nature of this influence on their own. Already at the first session, some of them began to see the connection between their own self-esteem, motivation and how the child evaluates his strengths and abilities. The second and third sessions focused on a more detailed understanding of the current intra-family relationships and the mother's relationship with her parents. The result of this work can be considered the emergence of a parent's understanding of what their conflicts affect the children motivation. And how they can work to resolve these conflicts and reduce their negative impact on the child.